dantesers

unsuccessfulmetalbenders:

me when my mom says we can go get mcdonalds 

thethreetrumpeters

Look around your college classroom, spot the virgins.

See, this seems like a game until you skip over the girl with a short skirt and hair in front of her eyes because you heard last summer that she slept with like nineteen guys. You can’t see her hands, but they’re under the table, pulling a rosary through her fingers as she tries to wash the sin off her. She’s only ever kissed three people in her whole life and they’re all girls. She turned down the wrong guy and he told everyone she’s “a whore.” The label “slut” stuck to the bottom of her shoe and swallowed her up.

But that quiet girl who is always reading probably never touched someone else’s penis, you figure, because you don’t know that she goes home and strips down and pulls on tight black leather, you don’t know she’s got a set of whips that could make any set of knees quiver, you don’t know because she’s proud of what she does but she’s not stupid enough to let anyone know about it. She’s sexy, just not here, not where people judge.

See, the truth is: you have no idea who has lost their virginity, because it doesn’t change you. It doesn’t give you some kind of glow or superpower or stamp on your forehead. You know the feeling of waking up on your birthday and thinking “I don’t feel any older whatsoever”? That’s what maybe they’re all so afraid of you finding out: sex doesn’t change you. Sex doesn’t make you an animal, sex doesn’t suddenly make your relationship a million times more stable or intimate or romantic - it can’t fix what’s broken, although it can make the pain go away for a bit. Sex doesn’t really occur with eighty tea lights and a thick white rug. Sex is ugly and loud and frequently awkward, sex is excellent and breathtaking and when you wake up the next morning, you’re the exact same person. There’s not some magical connection with the person in bed beside you. Believe it or not, pregnancy isn’t some kind of punishment - but practice safe sex, get tested, don’t spread your germs around. They want to tell you, “Sex can ruin you” and I’ve heard that a lot as a little girl, that some boy would join me under my sheets and then dump me four days after, used, unhappy.

But I figured out that I’m not a fucking toy. Letting someone have sex with me is not letting them “use” me, because I’m not an object. My father said the issue lay in the fact “Men are insecure and need to know that they’re the best you ever had,” but I think that’s a steaming crock of absolute-wrong and if I didn’t tell the people I’m with how many others I’d slept beside, there would be literally no way for them to know my number, because I don’t rust, I don’t wear out, I don’t get bruised. I’m not a wilting fruit, I don’t go rotten.

But here’s the thing: some people connect sex and emotion. I don’t personally because I am probably secretly an ice storm in disguise, but I still respect my partner’s desires. If they’re the type to want love and sex to coincide, I let them. I don’t make fun, I don’t pull one-night-stands or friends-with-benefits, because it’s not their “reputation” I’m afraid for: it’s their heart I’m defending.

Here’s the thing: Instead of worrying about people’s “purity” and how it defines them as a person, worry instead about how you can protect other people’s emotions.

Because here’s the thing: look around your room and spot the virgins. Look harder. You can’t tell. Sex doesn’t alter people, it doesn’t make them act in a certain way nor dress in a certain manner. Sex and personality have nothing to do with each other. There’s a reason that virginity doesn’t show on someone’s face: because having sex doesn’t cause you to change.

"I lost my virginity to a boy I didn’t even love…" /// r.i.d (via i-blame-reagan)
nothingbut-treble
nothingbut-treble:

littlewood-inthe-bigblue-surf:

concertbandblog:

Okay so there’s this huge thing that happened yesterday when a teacher from our school posted on social media and said “The band and their begging all over town is annoying and embarrassing. Have some pride.” Also this  was in the comments. I’m trying to think of a response but I am too furious to say anything. HELP.

Okay, first of all if you want the band to be subject to drug testing, maybe you should give them the same benefits as a sports team. That includes respect. You think it’s easy being in band? You think we just have fun all day and don’t work as hard as a sports team? We fundraise more than any other sports team does, but you know what the problem is? The school board doesn’t see it fit to give us an actual decent amount of money just because we aren’t a ‘sports’ team. I would like to see you do band because I know for a fact that if you did it for one day, you would not be saying any of this.

Okay FIRST OF ALL, the drug testing is so that they know the athletes aren’t cheating HOW THE FLYING MONKEY SHIT ARE DRUGS SUPPOSED TO GIVE BAND MEMBERS AN UNFAIR ADVANTAGE!? “Let lemme just pop some roids so I have all of this pent up energy and my baritone is the loudest one out there.” What the fuck? That is NOT how music works. Second of all, yeah ^^^is right, we do fundraise more than any sportsteam BECAUSE we don’t get the same funding as them. You think my highschool football team needs 5 coaches? I don’t know but who cares if my band director has to teach band AND chorus and still be expected to write all this music for our extra variety shows and other things, because music doesn’t matter right?! I am beyond livid right now because something similar just happened with a teacher at my school who has been very close friends with my band director for a long time. I couldn’t believe the amount of prejudice against band kids returning from a trip (for which me only missed two days of school….how many total days does his goddamn football team miss for leaving early? I’d like to add it up and shove it in his face)…again don’t repeat these things but holy cornbread this is utter ridiculousness. I absolutely hate it!

nothingbut-treble:

littlewood-inthe-bigblue-surf:

concertbandblog:

Okay so there’s this huge thing that happened yesterday when a teacher from our school posted on social media and said “The band and their begging all over town is annoying and embarrassing. Have some pride.” Also this was in the comments. I’m trying to think of a response but I am too furious to say anything. HELP.

Okay, first of all if you want the band to be subject to drug testing, maybe you should give them the same benefits as a sports team. That includes respect. You think it’s easy being in band? You think we just have fun all day and don’t work as hard as a sports team? We fundraise more than any other sports team does, but you know what the problem is? The school board doesn’t see it fit to give us an actual decent amount of money just because we aren’t a ‘sports’ team. I would like to see you do band because I know for a fact that if you did it for one day, you would not be saying any of this.

Okay FIRST OF ALL, the drug testing is so that they know the athletes aren’t cheating HOW THE FLYING MONKEY SHIT ARE DRUGS SUPPOSED TO GIVE BAND MEMBERS AN UNFAIR ADVANTAGE!? “Let lemme just pop some roids so I have all of this pent up energy and my baritone is the loudest one out there.” What the fuck? That is NOT how music works. Second of all, yeah ^^^is right, we do fundraise more than any sportsteam BECAUSE we don’t get the same funding as them. You think my highschool football team needs 5 coaches? I don’t know but who cares if my band director has to teach band AND chorus and still be expected to write all this music for our extra variety shows and other things, because music doesn’t matter right?! I am beyond livid right now because something similar just happened with a teacher at my school who has been very close friends with my band director for a long time. I couldn’t believe the amount of prejudice against band kids returning from a trip (for which me only missed two days of school….how many total days does his goddamn football team miss for leaving early? I’d like to add it up and shove it in his face)…again don’t repeat these things but holy cornbread this is utter ridiculousness. I absolutely hate it!